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How to Calm Primary School Children During Angry Outbursts

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As primary school teachers, it's highly likely at some point that we'll encounter a child in our class who becomes angry very quickly. Here, we looked into the reasons behind children's anger and explore effective ways to help calm them down.

As a primary classroom teacher, you’re not just an educator; you’re also a mentor, a confidant, and a guide through the ups and downs of childhood. In your classroom, you witness the full spectrum of emotions, from laughter and excitement to frustration and anger. While the former may bring joy and energy to the learning environment, the latter can present unique challenges that require careful navigation.

Understanding the nature of anger in primary-aged children is essential for creating a supportive and nurturing classroom environment. Anger often emerges as a response to various triggers such as difficulty with academic tasks, social conflicts, or feeling overwhelmed by emotions they may not fully understand. For primary children, expressing anger can be particularly challenging as they are still developing their emotional regulation skills and may lack the vocabulary to articulate their feelings effectively.

In the classroom setting, angry outbursts can disrupt learning, create tension among pupils, and impact the overall atmosphere. However, it’s crucial to approach these situations with empathy, compassion, and a willingness to help children learn and grow from their experiences. By recognising the underlying causes of anger and implementing proactive strategies to support children, you can create a classroom environment where children feel safe, understood, and empowered to manage their emotions effectively.

In this guide, we’ll explore practical techniques and strategies to help primary-aged children calm down during angry outbursts in the classroom. From establishing clear expectations and routines to teaching emotional regulation skills and implementing calm-down strategies, you’ll discover actionable steps to promote emotional well-being and foster a positive learning environment for all learners. Together, we’ll navigate the complexities of childhood emotions and empower your pupils to thrive academically, socially, and emotionally.

Understanding the Nature of Anger in Primary School Children

Primary-aged children often experience anger as a response to frustration, disappointment, or feeling misunderstood. It’s essential to recognise that these emotions are a natural part of development and provide children with the tools and support they need to navigate them effectively. By understanding the triggers and underlying causes of anger, you can better address and diffuse tense situations in the classroom.

Building a Positive Classroom Environment

A positive classroom environment is essential for promoting emotional well-being and minimising instances of anger and frustration. Create a welcoming atmosphere where children feel valued, respected, and safe to express themselves. Encourage a sense of belonging by promoting teamwork, cooperation, and empathy among children.

Establishing Clear Expectations and Routines

Clear expectations and routines help children feel secure and know what is expected of them. Establish classroom rules that emphasise respect, kindness, and responsible behaviour. Consistently reinforce these expectations and provide gentle reminders when necessary. Routines provide structure and predictability, which can help reduce anxiety and prevent meltdowns.

Teaching Emotional Regulation Skills

Empower your learners with the tools and strategies they need to regulate their emotions effectively. Incorporate lessons on emotional awareness, self-regulation, and coping skills into your curriculum. Teach techniques such as deep breathing, mindfulness exercises, and positive self-talk. Encourage pupils to practice these skills regularly, both in and out of the classroom.

Implementing Calm-Down Strategies

When a child experiences an angry outburst in the classroom, it’s essential to have a plan in place to help them calm down and regain control of their emotions. Create a designated calm-down area where learners can go to cool off and de-escalate. Stock this area with soothing sensory items such as stress balls, fidget toys, or soft blankets. Encourage pupils to use the calm-down area proactively when they feel themselves becoming overwhelmed.

Practicing Active Listening and Validation

During moments of anger, practice active listening and validate your pupils’ feelings. Provide a safe space for them to express themselves without fear of judgment. Use empathetic statements such as “I understand that you’re feeling frustrated right now” or “It’s okay to feel angry, but let’s find a solution together.” By acknowledging and validating their emotions, you can help defuse tension and facilitate problem-solving.

Utilising Peer Support and Peer Mediation

Encourage peer support and peer mediation within the classroom community. Teach your learners how to empathise with their classmates and offer support during difficult moments. Assign buddy systems or peer mentors to help children who may be struggling with anger management. Peer mediation can be an effective way to resolve conflicts peacefully and empower pupils to take ownership of their emotions and behaviour.

Collaborating with Parents and Support Staff

Maintain open communication with parents and collaborate with support staff, such as school counsellors or psychologists, to provide additional support to children who may be struggling with anger issues. Share observations, strategies, and resources to ensure a consistent approach between home and school environments. Work together as a team to develop individualised plans and interventions to meet each child’s needs effectively.


By implementing these strategies and fostering a supportive classroom environment, you can help young children develop the skills they need to manage their emotions and navigate challenging situations calmly and confidently. Remember to be patient, empathetic, and proactive in addressing anger and promoting emotional well-being. With your guidance and support, pupils can learn valuable life skills that will serve them well beyond the classroom.

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